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Published November 30, 2011, 11:30 PM

A 12-step plan to help you cope with your divorce

Getting divorced changes everything about your day-to-day life, but it also changes how you see yourself and reduces your self-esteem.

By: McClatchy Newspapers, INFORUM

Getting divorced changes everything about your day-to-day life, but it also changes how you see yourself and reduces your self-esteem.

Even with support around you, you can find it difficult to remember who you are without your significant other. The symptoms are not unlike withdrawal, although the situation can be infinitely more complicated with the addition of another person or children.

But to psychotherapist and divorce coach Micki McWade, there is a way to get through the process and deal with the pain rationally.

McWade outlines steps for getting through and moving on from divorce in her book, “Getting Up, Getting Over, Getting On: A Twelve-Step Guide to Divorce Recovery.” The book gives assistance and inspiration to anyone going through the troublesome time and is based on the 12-step recovery program used in organizations such as AA and Al-Anon.

“Divorce is deeply painful and disorienting,” McWade said. “People lose track of who they are, and it affects all of their relationships. Anyone going through it can use guidance and reorientation. Divorce is here to stay, so we have to learn to do it better to ensure a clean and sane recovery for both adults and their children.”

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