Areavoices: The need for forgivenessI’ve been hearing it for clients. I see random articles in magazines. And just today, I found something on Facebook.
By: Melissa Schaff, "Inner Focus", INFORUM
The word “forgiveness” has been showing up in my life recently.
I’ve been hearing it for clients. I see random articles in magazines. And just today, I found something on Facebook.
Sigh. I get it. The powers that be, which I affectionately call “The Guys,” are gently giving me a message that they feel needs to be addressed. I know what I need to do.
It wasn’t long ago I was asked by The Guys to create a channeled meditation on forgiveness. They wanted us to have a view from their world. The meditation, along with the entire channeled meditation series, was powerful and life-changing.
Hey, if The Guys are going to come forward and speak about a topic, it’s for the benefit of many.
In the forgiveness meditation, The Guys start out by saying, “Peace starts at home. Forgiveness is the key. We do not harbor hate, anger or even aggression. We harbor love, fulfillment and grace. We embody anger management, wisdom and euphoria. We do not waste our time on the tiniest of infractions. We do not even give them any more than a glance, a mere glimpse, for to do so would detract from others’ beauty, therefore detracting from ours.”
They go on to tell us the art of forgiveness begins within our own heart. They say it was not designed to harbor such animosities or travesties. They say it was built to love and to aid and to be compassionate.
Each and every time I’m told a client needs to forgive, it’s when I’m working over their heart area. Our heart was not designed to harbor resentment, and yet millions of us continue to do so, even if it means literally killing ourselves.
According to an article in Real Simple, scientists agree that holding a serious grudge has a toxic effect on your body. What’s a “serious grudge?” Well, according to the article, it’s defined as “repeatedly thinking about an injustice you’ve suffered through a lens of vengeance, hostility, bitterness, resentment, anger, sadness or all of the above.”
The physical consequences of keeping such resentment include raised blood pressure, an increased risk of heart attack and stroke, an impaired immune system and more inflammation – a known cause of arthritis, autoimmune disorders, obesity, fibromyalgia, diabetes, cancer, heart attacks, etc.
What’s more, holding on to deep resentment also appears to aggravate depression, anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorders. I’ve just got to ask: Is it worth it?
So how do we deal with this overwhelming resentment? Well, a satisfying revenge is one way. We are actually programmed to want to do this. Back in the day, if we exacted revenge on someone, we were ensuring they wouldn’t be able to be naughty again. Revenge is a natural way of protecting ourselves, but it’s not one I endorse.
The Guys give another option. They ask that you take a look at a powerful memory. They ask you to really examine it. Does it still cause you pain?
If so, then mentally step back a little bit until you’re more comfortable viewing it. Continue to take steps back until you move so far away from the memory that it no longer holds any power over you. For each of you this will mean something different.
According to one article contributor, you’ll know forgiveness has begun “when you recall those who hurt you and feel the power to wish them well.”
To evolve and grow, one must let go of pain. It simply does not exist where we are ultimately headed. If you choose to continue nurturing the pain, there’s a good chance you’ll get there quicker than those of us who have allowed forgiveness to reside within our hearts.
Melissa Schaff owns Inner Focus Reiki, where she strives to empower, enlighten and inspire. She blogs at http://innerfocus.areavoices.com