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Minding our Elders: Sparing a loved one with dementia unnecessary grief

DEAR CAROL: My mother has mid-stage dementia and just recently started asking to see her deceased twin brother. It breaks my heart to tell her that Uncle Jim died of cancer 10 years ago.

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Minding our Elders: Sibling disapproves of parent’s move to nursing home PressPass

DEAR CAROL: I’ve been taking care of my mother for seven years. For the first five years, she lived in an apartment and I visited twice a day to provide help. The past two years she’s lived with me.

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Minding our Elders: Elder’s dementia can be especially hard on teens

DEAR CAROL: My grandma has frontotemporal dementia, which has completely changed her personality. She used to be funny and loving, but now she’s mean and hard to be around. My mom says she can’t deal with Grandma and work, too, and Grandma has no one else.

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Minding Our Elders: Aging itself shouldn’t mean a loss of rights

DEAR CAROL: My 76-year-old mother lives alone in the family home and she doesn’t want to move.

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Minding our Elders: Forgive yourself; all caregivers will make mistakes PressPass

DEAR CAROL: I’ve read much of your work about not arguing with people who have dementia, but I have a hard time following through. Yesterday, my mother who has middle to late-stage Alzheimer’s, was complaining about something that happened years ago and I got really angry.

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Minding our Elders: Elder’s tears may stem from happiness PressPass

DEAR CAROL: My mother has had a series of strokes and lives in a good nursing home nearby. I do love her and I know she loves me, but her negative personality has been difficult over the years, and our relationship has been rocky.

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Minding our Elders: Are adult children responsible for parents’ nursing home bill?

DEAR CAROL: Both of my parents are in a nursing home, so their once comfortable retirement savings will be depleted within another year.

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Minding our Elders: How to evaluate a nursing home for your loved one

DEAR CAROL: I’m moving my mother from another state to a nursing home near where I live. I’d like her closer to me, and I also feel we have access to better nursing homes in my community.

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Minding our Elders: Christmas intensifies grief for widow

DEAR CAROL: I dread Christmas. My husband died last summer and this is my first Christmas without him.

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Minding Our Elders: Distant family criticizes local sister’s caregiving

DEAR CAROL: I live in the same community as my mother, who is nearly 90. She’s in a local nursing home and I visit her several times a week. She has some memory issues and severe arthritis, but she’s quite content.

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Minding Our Elders: Hospice offers quality end-of-life care for Alzheimer’s

DEAR CAROL: My dad has been in a local nursing home for several years. He has many health issues but advanced Alzheimer’s is his biggest problem.

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Minding Our Elders: Dad with dementia insists Mom is alive PressPass

DEAR CAROL: My dad has had Alzheimer’s disease for more than six years. Two years ago, Mom died and he seemed to accept it, though with deep grief.

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Bursack: Education, support help caregivers cope

DEAR CAROL: My mom has recently been diagnosed with Lewy body dementia. She’s had Parkinson’s disease for several years, but was doing well up until she developed hallucinations last month.

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Minding Our Elders: Moving parents with dementia closer to family

DEAR CAROL: My parents both have dementia, though Mom is declining faster than Dad. They live in the home I grew up in, 700 miles away from my current home.

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Bursack: Make peace with father who takes mom’s abuse PressPass

Dear Carol: My mother has end-stage lung cancer and Alzheimer’s. She’s in a hospice program at home. She can be quite aggressive at times, and usually my father is the target. Over the years, he has taken on the personality of a battered husband.

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Bursack: Celebrate Father’s Day in your own special way PressPass

Dear Readers: Though my dad has been physically gone from my life for a number of years, he stays with me in spirit.

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Bursack: Hospice goal is dignity, less pain at end of life PressPass

Dear Carol: What exactly is hospice care? What can I expect?

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Bursack: Arranging a family meeting PressPass

Dear Carol: My mother-in-law has dementia and I was her full-time caregiver for eight years, with some help from her son, who is my husband.

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Bursack: Mothers come in many guises

Dear Readers: Today we celebrate mothers. Many women will be honored with special meals, cards and gifts given by their biological or adopted children, often with the loving help of their adult children’s spouses. Women who are mothers will also be honoring their own mom.

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Bursack: Moving could hurt mother PressPass

Dear Carol: My mother is 95 years old, and in good health other than some short-term memory loss.

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