Hauser: The faces in your life
There are three vital factors that will make the difference regarding who and where you will be five years from now. They are the same vital factors that determined who and where you are at today. These factors are: the spaces (of your mind), the places (you attend), and the faces in your life (the people you surround yourself with).
Social psychologist Dr. David McClelland of Harvard, after completing his research, concluded that the people with whom you habitually associate with determine as much as 95 percent of your success or failure in life.
Three thousand years ago, King Solomon of Israel wrote these words of wisdom: "Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm." Foolishness always harms more than just the foolish person. Drop a pitcher of water on the floor of a crowded room and not only will the one who dropped the pitcher get wet, those in the vicinity will also. The same is true in life.
Paul, a pastor in the first century, in his letter to the church in the city of Corinth, wrote: "Do not be misled: Bad company corrupts good character." This is one of the most important Bible verses and principles to share with our children. And yet, many adults never apply it to their own life.
Author and motivational speaker Jim Rohn stated that we become the combined average of the five people we hang around the most. Rohn believed we could tell the quality of our health, attitude and income by looking at the people around us. We start to eat what they eat, talk like they talk, read what they read, think like they think, watch what they watch and dress like they dress.
I recently finished reading "Divine Direction" by New York Times bestselling author and pastor, Craig Groeschel. He writes, "You may be one friendship away from changing your destiny. You may be one connection away from changing the world."
He describes three types of friends everyone needs to reach their God-given potential. The first type is a friend to challenge you and bring out your best. Do you have a friend that sharpens you; who always makes you better and makes you want to get better? If you want to get better as a mom, make a friend with a great mom.
Number two is a friend to help you find strength in God and to grow in your faith. What a blessing it is to have a friend who encourages and helps us to grow spiritually.
Number three is a friend to tell you the truth, especially when you don't want to hear it. Without this friend you will have blind spots that can derail your life.
Where do you need to "upgrade" your friends? What is stopping you from making that friend that will turn around your marriage, help you overcome an addiction or take you on a path to reconnect with God? It is not too late.
God bless you. See you next Sunday!
Hauser is founding and senior pastor, Prairie Heights of Fargo Moorhead. Email firstname.lastname@example.org