Twila Nogowski

Age: 39

West Fargo, North Dakota

A Washburn, N.D. high school alum, Twila Nogowski earned her associate's degree studying arts and humanities from Bismarck State College before attending Dickenson State University and then Minot State University to obtain her bachelors in math education and a master’s degree in education. Twila has spent 18 years teaching math at Cheney Middle School.

To be a successful middle school teacher you have to have energy ⁠— and Twila has some to spare. In addition to her teaching duties, Twila is an assistant volleyball coach for the West Fargo Packers and has been the director of the Volt Volleyball program for the past 15 years. The Volt boasts 24 teams and three different programs aimed at getting girls involved in the sport. A member of the North Country Region Volleyball Association board of directors for the past eight years, Twila currently serves as the board’s president and is also involved with North Dakota United, which is a summer volleyball program that has taken top-caliber teams to Chicago and Orlando. She also finds time to sell embroidery and screen printed apparel.

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Away from the classroom and volleyball court, you will find Twila working out, chasing kiddos 4.5-year-old Tegyn and 2.5-year-old Jaxyn with her husband Josh, or spending time with family and friends.

Photo courtesy of Ten Little Chickens Photography / Special to On The Minds of Moms
Photo courtesy of Ten Little Chickens Photography / Special to On The Minds of Moms

One word that best describes my parenting style…

balanced.

My definition of a mod mom is…

one who uses a village to raise her children.

The women I most admire is…

First, my mother, she was a stay at home mom and as great as that sounds in theory, that is one job that I could never fulfill.

Second, Bootsie, Barb, Paula, Betsy, Kelsey, Kinsey, Mikia, Hannah, Halle, Nadia, Maddie, Brynn, Ella, Lexi, Stef, Kailee, Khloe, Kaitlin, Shelby, Danika and anyone that I missed who comes and takes care of Tegyn and Jaxyn. They are the ones that allow me to work, coach, and have a night out with my husband! The extra love my kids get from these fabulous women makes my heart happy.

Third, Rammie, Mackenzie, and Katie as they are wonderful mothers that work, are involved in the community, have coached or currently coach, take on multiple jobs/tasks, would jump on board with any idea I threw out there, and would grab my kids to help in a heartbeat no matter how busy they were. They have shown me you can be a mom, ice cream for supper may be okay [at times], and you can ultimately do it all!

I find relaxation in…

being together as a family and watching our kids play. I love watching how they interact, watch as they learn new things, and have fun together.

I want my kids to experience …

happiness. I want them to be proud of themselves, confident, hardworking and the best versions of themselves. There are so many challenges in life that finding the “good” in life and finding happiness is what I want my kids to experience the most.

The best part of my day…

is hearing, “I love you momma!”

I find strength in…

knowing I have a wonderful family & parents along with a support system of families that have been a part of my life over the last 18 years!

I can’t live without my…

my sister, Londa. She has three kids and has always made being a mom seem easy. Plus, she is my best friend!

The movie I could watch over and over again…

Sweet Home Alabama or Momma Mia.

One thing I long to do again someday…

I feel you have to do things now when you can! Life isn’t promised to you “someday” and if it is that important, you can find time to do it now! It may not be what you envisioned, but it could be better! Yes, I wish I could sleep in and not constantly clean up after the kids, however, soon enough those days will be over, and I will miss all the fun of having young kids, sticky hands and endless snuggles, hugs, and kisses as well.

My biggest mom challenge…

deciding what to have for supper!

Time with my husband is usually spent…

coordinating his work schedule with my coaching schedule! We are a busy family, but we do love having our date nights, eating at Zorbaz, going to movies he wants to see, and taking our yearly vacation!

Photo courtesy of Ten Little Chickens Photography / Special to On The Minds of Moms
Photo courtesy of Ten Little Chickens Photography / Special to On The Minds of Moms

The qualities I admire most in my husband…

his calmness, constant support, motivation, and how he makes me a better person.

I spend “me time” by…

working out at Orange Theory, pedicures with my sister, and having supper with friends.

People are always surprised to learn I…

decided to take on another task or job, planned a wedding and got married in 4 days, never planned on having kids or coaching….and here we are! I have everything I never knew I wanted!

Photo courtesy of Ten Little Chickens Photography / Special to On The Minds of Moms
Photo courtesy of Ten Little Chickens Photography / Special to On The Minds of Moms

Outside of my family, I am passionate about…

providing opportunities for kids/young adults and helping them reach their potential. Through volleyball, I have had the opportunity to work with so many kids/young adults over the last 18 years in West Fargo and the surrounding communities. I love the ability to provide new opportunities through a common interest. It is very rewarding to be a part of so many lives, many of whom, I have also employed and helped mentor to become a volleyball coach. I love to see young adults passionate and want to learn and give back to a program that they grew up in. It is great to stay in touch with so many athletes I have worked with over the years. In addition, volleyball may come and go, but who they are outside of volleyball is truly what makes them special!

Editor’s note: Story was written by On The Minds of Moms staff originally published in the June/July 2019 issue of the On The Minds of Moms magazine. Forum Communications Company is re-publishing these stories as On the Minds of Moms staff members develop a new online community.